My very favorite game is "Making Life Wonderful" It's a happy game and I enjoy playing it. It makes "natural giving" possible. The joy of giving is often described as a greater joy than receiving. When you take from me, I feel so given to. However once in a while I fall into a lower state of vibration and end up playing another game that I don't like at all. It's called the game of "Who's Right" It's a game where everybody loses. The game of who's right is devious. It calls for punishment for who's wrong and reward for the person that's right. It promotes guilt and shame and makes violence enjoyable. We've been educated for quite a while to make violence enjoyable. In movies, the hero is often seen killing the bandit much to the delight of the audience. In this case the justification is that the hero is right and the bandit is wrong. This game of Who's right makes violence & judgement enjoyable.
Here is a video by Marshall Rosenburg titled: "The Basics of Non Violent Communications"
I've been learning from Marshall Rosenburg for sometime now. He makes a lot of sense to me. The first thing I learnt is that "You can't teach anybody anything". So don;t try to teach anybody anything or change anybody. You can motivate or inspire them so that they might teach themselves or want to change as a result.
I turned to Marshall because, I have been bogged down with partnership disagreements the past 2 days. I have 2 partners, I am the third. Two of them were at logger-heads with each other. I am the neutral party. Listening to Marshall is eye opening. I quickly fell back to being an observer instead of a judge. I hope this video helps you too.
